Last week, our guest blogger, Philippa Gittens walked us through having a positive mindset and this week we have Danielle Martins to explain us how to rise above mental slavery.
My name is Danielle Martins, I am a transformational mentor, an international speaker and the co-author of the book Rising Up From Mental Slavery - How To Unleash Your Infinite Potential, for which I feel honored to have become a bestseller. It is with a humbled and grateful heart that I can tell you that I love my life! I have a beautiful family; I do what I love, I love serving people and helping them to free themselves from mental slavery through my personal development programs; I am proud of myself, of the journey I had the courage to go through, of the accomplishments I have achieved, but you know what? It wasn't always like this... There was a time when my life was far from being the one that I wanted.
I was born and raised in poverty, in a home that, besides being poor, was very violent.
I suffered not only with physical violence but also, and in my opinion, "worse" with mental violence: I grew up surrounded by people who were very committed to making sure that I didn't feel worthy of love or respect. I had no self-confidence; I was constantly frustrated, feeling suffocated and unmotivated. I used to live with a sense of ambivalence for something inside me wanted to expand and overcome that situation but at the same time, my reasoning kept telling me that I was not able!
Have you ever heard this?
You're not good enough
You're too young for this
You are too old
You can't, who do you think you are?
You will fail
You will never make it...
I felt that I had a lot of potential and that I could go much further in life, but for some unknown reason, I could not see any changes, no matter how hard I tried. In fact, because I was so young when all mental and moral abuse began, my internal dialogue shaped itself according to the limited perception that other people had about me and I, inadvertently, accepted that as being true about myself and as you can imagine, my results took the form of those limiting beliefs!
The consequences?! Pretty obvious: In my adulthood, I was in a constant struggle with such pressure because I was STUCK! I was overworked, I was underpaid, unhappy...
I hated my life but you know what? I was stubborn! I used to observe people and I realized that for some of them, life used to unfold itself beautifully, and I thought to myself, "There must be something they know and do differently, that makes a difference! I have to find out what it is!" And so began my quest to learn what they did, so that I could overcome my own situation. I was so determined that I was willing to "die" to the "old me" so I could be re-born into the person I wanted to become.
This BURNING DESIRE that I had to change, not only allowed me to overcome the difficulties and limitations of the past, but also helped me to build a life of happiness, abundance, and joy.
You must have the DESIRE to WIN and keep a commitment with yourself, to not stop until you get what you want!
By now you know that you have to BE DETERMINED to change, so let me give you 3 gold nuggets that have helped me to achieve my own success:
1º - Invest in yourself - Find a mentor:
When I was struggling to change my results, I didn’t know that to succeed in life, I had to "BELIEVE IN MYSELF". I used to think that I had to win the lottery because I didn’t believe that I was smart enough to achieve my dreams, but the moment I invested almost all the money I had in my bank account into a mentorship program, my life has changed dramatically. The mentor helped me to uncover my blind spots; helped me to develop my strengths; to define and get organized with my goals and actions; to achieve them; and made me realize that I could, truly, TRUST IN MYSELF! Find someone who can guide you and ASK FOR HELP. It can be a mentor, a coach, a speaker or even a friend who has already achieved the success that you want to achieve, from whom you can learn how to get there as well.
2º - Change your mental programming:
“You cannot get different results by doing always the same things, right?” I know this sounds cliché, but trust me: If you really want to change your life, make a serious commitment to figure out what limiting beliefs you hold about yourself and GET RID OF THEM. The beliefs you have about your own potential will always shape your thoughts and feelings and, based on that, you will act. Those actions will create results and those results will shape your reality! Have you ever realized that you were speaking negatively "with yourself"? So, if you look at your life and see some aspects that you are not happy with, find out what limiting beliefs have influenced you to make the decisions that have led you to where you are now. Become AWARE OF YOUR THOUGHTS and the FEELINGS THAT THEY TRIGGER in you; Read books that can help you understand those feelings and how to deal with them. And remember: you do not have to walk alone. If you need it, seek the help of a mentor, a coach, a speaker or a friend.
3ª - People:
I fancy a quote that says: "If you are surrounded by chickens, do not expect to fly like an eagle." This last gold nugget is about making sure that you carefully select the people you surround yourself with. Eliminate from your life the "naysayers", the energy drainers, the toxic relationships. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH ONLY THE BEST people who have BIG DREAMS, GREAT VISIONS, AND DESIRES; people that are HIGH ACHIEVERS. Allow yourself to be influenced by their good and positive presence, learn from them and help them. Having the best at your side will certainly accelerate the achievement of your dreams.
So you see? If I was able to overcome my past limitations to create the life that I wanted, know the YOU CAN DO IT too! I am no different than you, I’m just someone who was really "HUNGRY"!
I don't know what you might be facing right now and some of you may be facing some difficult moments, perhaps others just want to find their soulmates, and why not? Whatever it is, know that if you PROCLAIM IT'S TIME TO MAKE IT HAPPEN, and BE DETERMINED and PERSISTENT to meet with the success you want to achieve, YOU WILL MAKE IT and I will be there, at the top of the mountain to welcome you with a standing ovation!
Take this gold with you, use it, craft it, shape it and make your life even more beautiful...
To YOUR success,
Transformational Mentor, International Speaker, and Bestselling Author
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